According to my 8 year old, her friends were being really "nasty" to her at school. The school has "wizard wows" which are rewards for being good & you can use the little coupons each Wednesday to purchase things off the "Wizard Wow" cart. My girl, being 8 in a 40 yr old body, has chosen to save her wizard wows for something big, like lunch with her teacher or the principal and she has not purchased ONE thing all year so far. Yesterday, the girls in class saw her pile and started accusing her of stealing other people's wizard wows. And, according to Jackie, they wouldn't believe her that she'd just saved them all year, calling her a liar. When I asked her how that made her feel, she rolled her eyes and said, "Mom! How would it make YOU feel?" Well, duh.
Anyway, we spent some time just talking about this and I gave her a few suggestions--tho she didn't like the one where I offered to just come sit next to her at school for the rest of the year. In the end, I told her about "blessing & releasing". I told her to be honest with them and tell them that she didn't steal them (like she already tried to explain) but if they don't want to believe her then she can't be friends with them right now. And to move onto other children in the class that will make her feel good at the end of the day. She seemed to like this idea.
Did I give her the right advice? Who knows...it's HARD being a mom, dangit!
But, today is a snow day so she's home. I hope, as 8 yr olds often do, these girls will have forgotten all about their accusations by the time they return to school tomorrow and all will be well in the 2nd grade. But, if not, I wish my girl happiness in her heart as she works through the facts of life at school. Seriously, why won't she just let me come sit by her everyday?
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